"Playing up that he's in control and responsible for getting you off is a huge turn-on," says Cynthia W. He can use his power to either allow you to climax or withhold stimulation for a tortuous minute.
Give Him a Peep Show Much of arousal is driven by what we see — especially for guys. It lets them know what gets her going and makes them feel like they're doing something illicit by just sitting back and enjoying the show," says sexologist Sari Locker, Ph D, author of Naughty move: On a night your guy is coming over to hang out, masturbate alone just before you're going to see him, but don't let yourself climax.
For one, you both naturally become much more daring as you act.
"When you're bound, you're completely at the mercy of your partner's urges, which is exciting.
Plus, you can focus entirely on being pleasured since you're not able to reciprocate," says Gloria Brame, Ph D, a sex therapist in Georgia.
Make a ring with your fingers by touching the top of your pointer finger to the top of your thumb.
Then place it around the base of his shaft, and slowly move toward the tip.