If dating roles were reversed
We did not choose to end our relationship because it wasn’t working out.
I guess that encapsulates why it is so difficult to date a widow, especially a young one like me whose loss is so new. Though I see his continuing presence in my life as a beautiful morning mist that surrounds me with love, I worry that my potential dates will see it as a murky haze that makes real communication impossible.
This terrible tragedy happened to us, but we didn’t want it.
So, for example, a divorcee will probably call their former spouse their “ex.” But Shawn is not my ex — he is still my husband.
If the roles were reversed, and I was a non-widowed single person dating a widower, I’m sure I’d feel a degree of insecurity about my partner’s attachment to his late wife.
My research into the best online dating sites for widows and widowers was not encouraging.
A quick search pulled up sites like “Our Time” and “Silver Singles,” but I was more than a decade too young for both of them.
My friends assured me that the way to meet people was via the internet.
But what did I know about the world of online dating, from writing a catchy bio to appearing attractive in digital form?