Good physical boundaries in dating
First, you must establish some better boundaries than the ones you’ve set.This past summer my wife shared with some young women a list of very practical things to help in their pursuit of purity.You need the brakes put on in a big way, which might even mean putting this relationship on pause for a season while you each nurture purity of heart through discipleship and prayer.As for discussing it with one another, I would simply ask an older married adult or couple — a leader in your church or a mature Christian — to be with you and lead the conversation for you as you talk about where you go from here. She lived near a dozen beautiful beaches outside of Los Angeles until I ripped her away to snowy Minnesota.We have water in Minneapolis; it’s just frozen half the year.Sometimes lust takes over my mind (I’m not sure about him), but I quickly pray for God’s mercy and thank God that so far I’ve fled from it.
Something happens deep inside of us when we walk up, let the water splash over our feet, and stare out over endless waves, extending far beyond our imagination can run.You have set some very good goals about purity in your relationship, but your other choices are undermining those goals and will likely cause you to fail. Saying that you want to save your first kiss for marriage is awesome, but kissing on the cheek or the side of your lips — as if that is not kissing — is not going to help you accomplish that goal.Having your bodies against one another, even though clothed, for extended time while struggling with lustful thoughts and becoming nervous and excited will not help you accomplish your goals of sexual purity.I shared a few points from Joshua Harris’ book , and I requested that I want to save my kiss for marriage only. What I’m worried about is our physical relationship and our sexual drive.We’ve hugged for three minutes, kissed on the cheek or side of my lips, held hands sometimes, stroking, and I realized this makes me very nervous and excited.