Dating tips for women in 20s
“It’s way too early,” says Ivan, 20, when I ask him if most people in their early twenties are ready for a committed relationship such as living together or getting married.
“We are still young and learning about our lives, having fun and enjoying our freedom. We will often just leave our partner because we are too young to commit.” In general, relationships conflict with the individualistic notion that “you don’t need someone else to make you happy — you should make yourself happy.” That is the message i Gen’ers grew up hearing, the received wisdom whispered in their ears by the cultural milieu.
It’s difficult to try to learn about yourself when you’re with someone else.” Even if they go well, relationships are stressful, i Gen’ers say.
“When you’re in a relationship, their problem is your problem, too,” says Mark, 20, who lives in Texas.
“So not only do you have your set of problems, but if they’re having a bad day, they’re kind of taking it out on you.
The stress alone is ridiculous.” Dealing with people, i Gen’ers seem to say, is exhausting.
“Like your boyfriend could have been talking to somebody for months behind your back and you’ll never find out,” 15-year-old Madeline from the Bronx said in the social media expose .At the end of the day, your 20s are the years where YOU DO YOU.Be selfish, have fun and explore the world.” It’s not hard to find young people who echo Taveroff’s sentiment that self-exploration is the purpose of one’s twenties — a notion that many 25-year-olds as recently as the 1990s might have found odd.“People who are so heavily reliant on relationships for their whole source of emotional security don’t know how to cope when that’s taken away from them,” says Haley, 18, who attends community college in San Diego.“A relationship is impermanent, everything in life is impermanent, so if that’s taken away and then you can’t find another girlfriend or another boyfriend, then what are you going to do?