Dating again after a bad relationship
You don’t sit around for six months waiting to heal. On the other hand, there are a completely different set of emotions surrounding a break-up. Well, it pretty much meant that I got back on JDate, found myself a cool girl a few hours later and was hooking up with her shortly thereafter. Three years later, we’re still friends and grab dinner once a month. This pattern, by the way, continued for a few months (and a few more women), until I was truly and finally “over” my ex. You need to be “over” someone in order to be able to date. When you’re reeling from a break-up, all you can do is RECEIVE. I remember reading once upon a time that people need half the length of the relationship to heal properly. Great blog Evan, I think you are right, you might feel like you want to be in someone elses company, but it ´s just not fair on the other person.
Either way, I have decided to back off somewhat and see how things play out.
“…don’t kill me, but I’ve got two Match dates lined up this week…” (cue my loud sighing) We all know deep down that dating too soon after a breakup is a bad idea. The pain of a broken heart activates the same parts of the brain as clinical depression.
It causes us real, physical suffering that can last weeks or months, and the lure of new romantic love is one of the strongest antidotes.
” One week for every year of the relationship is one of the most common healing time prescriptions.
But I promise, there is no magic formula that will guarantee when you will be ready to open up your heart to someone new.