Dating a man who is divorced
If you take only one thing away from this story, let it be this: If the timing is off, don't try to force it. Think of it this way, in every relationship, you eventually talk about exes — this one just may be a bit more, well, significant. Let he or she do the talking, listen attentively, and then do your best to move on from there.Don't over indulge in these sessions because you DO NOT want double as his/her therapist, and this is an easy role to fall into. He or she was married to your current significant other for Pete's sake! This means: no stalking him/her on social media, and no peppering your new love interest with questions about the ex. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling.The older we get, the more inevitable it's going to be we date people who already have a marriage behind their belt.For me, this was because of the dog my ex and his ex-wife used to share.Every other week, they would hand-off the dog like it was a small child, during which she and I would make polite but totally forced small talk in the apartment they once shared together. If there are actual kids involved in this former union, well that's an entire — and far more complex —story.Of course, I realize every man is unique, but these are just some features that I notice a lot. And they don’t want to feel obligated to do anything! Just like divorced women, divorced men are wounded. They want to be loved, they want to be treated with kindness, they want to feel appreciated, and they want to feel like they are still capable of being in a healthy relationship. Some divorced men want to fall in love right away, and some want to take their time.
Odds are this person knows exactly what he or she is looking for in a relationship, and will be very honest about it. Remember: They don't want to waste their time either.
In other words, they've graduated from the prestigious "How to really please a partner" college, and you get to be the lucky benefactor of this degree. He or she has been fully immersed in it, and he or she won't take anything less than the real thing.
In fact, the real thing may even have to be an extra level of mind blowing for them to go down that path again.
Today as I listen to single women tell their stories about dating divorced men, I remember my experience well.
I see them making choices about dating divorced men similar to ones I made.