Be unavailable dating
Emotionally unavailable people see a relationship as a source of comfort — something to occupy their time until something better comes along.
They have to choose to mend this mentality in their own time.
My partner and I would feed each other’s desire to have a functioning relationship, and together we would ignore everything that led to our breakups.
With each new start, I would convince myself that this time was going to be different without acknowledging my fear to truly commit.
Here’s what I want you to know about dating an emotionally unavailable person: I always knew in the back of my mind that this relationship was not my forever.
We would talk about getting married and starting a family someday, and I would engage in the conversation but subconsciously I would never truly entertain the idea.
A woman can be emotionally unavailable for many reasons.
Very often it is because she is afraid to let anyone close to her.
Companionship makes them feel safe, and they'll do whatever it takes to hold onto it — even be dishonest about how they're really feeling.
Every time we broke up and got back together, I would jump right back onto the “this is forever” train.
Inside I knew this wasn't true, but it felt good to say in the moment.
Once I finally walked away from the relationship, I thought I was going to suddenly be free to live life for myself again.
But even after I left my husband, my identity stayed with him.