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According to mixed-race Grindr user Ben*, 23, when people say they're looking exclusively for, say, Asians or Latinos, it's often in a fetishizing way, as if the users are looking for a race and not a person.
When OKCupid crunched the numbers again in 2014, not much had changed: Though more people said they were open to interracial dating, the numbers showed racial biases were still in play.
Yet even though they found it tiring to field endless questions about what "mix" they were, some multiracial people told that they preferred online dating to dating IRL, as it gave them the ability to be upfront about their identity on their profile.
Alyssa said that putting your racial background on your profile preempts the need to have an awkward conversation about it later on.
Nobody walks away from online dating without a negative story or two, whether it's having to fend off the guy who won't stop asking for nude pics or that couple that thinks just because you're bisexual, you're down for a threesome. As a biracial person and the creator of the #biraciallookslike hashtag, I've experienced this firsthand.
But the world of online dating can be difficult in a very specific way for those who identify as multiracial. Whether it's some drunk guy saying, "You're so hot, I don't care that you're Hispanic" (I'm not Hispanic), or someone finding out my dad is from India and then only wanting to talk about curry and Bollywood, my experiences as a multiracial woman have been marked by people just not knowing how to bring up race without being incredibly awkward.