Advice on dating a separated married man
Once you've decided to go through with a divorce, it can take months to decide on what type of divorce process you want to pursue, sort out the details of an agreement, get lawyers to review and make changes to the agreement, etc.
I don't think it's a coincidence that he didn't have any luck til that changed. My marriage was over for two years before the paperwork was finally completed (the courts were SLOW after the mandatory one year separation period), and I had a few stinging rejections because people assumed I was still invested in my marriage on some level. But, when I called it quits, with my ex-wives, and filed for divorce, it's because it was FN over! So, when I am pushed to the point of no return, there is NO return! I think focusing on the legal status of someone's divorce distracts away from the real issue at hand: are they emotionally and physically ready for the type of relationship they (and you) are pursuing? There's also lots of people who have never been legally married but may have had other kinds of long-term relationships that they are still carrying baggage from.on the plus side, I did have a really good drink at that I've said on other posts in this sub, it's tough to bring up the topic of "oh, so... This one year rule is an one size fit all non-sense. I'm divorced" being in my early 30s..I feel it would have been even tougher to bring up and explain "so, I'm separated, and the divorce paperwork is in process, but hasn't been signed yet" (as it could be interpreted as hoping for reconciliation). It was 3.75 years from when I left the house to when our divorce was final. I was 52 when I left, and I felt as though I didn't have time to waste, because I'm not getting any younger and I didn't do a whole lot of dating before I got married, so I needed to get out there.I was ready to date, but I ran into a lot of skepticism and was avoided by women who didn't want to date a separated guy. like many things, there's no one-size-fits-all formula.